I'm posting this on Saturday, but it's for the Sunday Scribblings topic - Scandalous.Before I remarried three and a half years ago, I was in great shape. I used to do taekwondo and worked my way up to a brown belt before I decided I was likely to break a bone breaking boards like a friend of mine (we were almost to the 40 mark at the time). Then I started going to Jazzercise a few times a week because they held it at my daughter's dance studio. It was so convenient, and I loved that almost as much as taekwondo with my son. One of my favorite songs to exercise to was "Scandalous" by Mis Teeq. A racy song, yes, but an awesome beat for exercising, and sort of sexy, too.
Since I got remarried and moved clear on the other side of town, 45 miles away, I have no time to exercise. No friends to watch the kids, mom isn't close anymore, no "groups" to belong to... You'd think now that I have a husband, I'd have more time, no longer being a single mom, but what is so scandalous about this is that I have less time. Lots less. And I haven't found a place that has jazzercise classes, or any other types of organized classes, held at times I can actually attend. I work all day and have to get dinner on the table and get kids to their activities, same as before, but now there are six of us. I think staying in shape was much easier to fit into my schedule when I was a single mom.
I got married, moved where I know virtually no one, and neither my daughter or son is involved in taekwondo or dance any longer. I'm cooking at home more, which should be better for my figure, so why have I gained 30 pounds in the last three and a half years? It's scandalous! Why don't I have time to exercise anymore?
Well, I suppose I could explain it, but that would be a terribly long post for my journal rather than here. The fact is that I am overweight, under-appreciated, completely burned out, living a far more complicated life, and now, unmotivated. Things were much simpler when I was a single mom. Really, they were. And that is so so so so scandalous.
Since I got remarried and moved clear on the other side of town, 45 miles away, I have no time to exercise. No friends to watch the kids, mom isn't close anymore, no "groups" to belong to... You'd think now that I have a husband, I'd have more time, no longer being a single mom, but what is so scandalous about this is that I have less time. Lots less. And I haven't found a place that has jazzercise classes, or any other types of organized classes, held at times I can actually attend. I work all day and have to get dinner on the table and get kids to their activities, same as before, but now there are six of us. I think staying in shape was much easier to fit into my schedule when I was a single mom.
I got married, moved where I know virtually no one, and neither my daughter or son is involved in taekwondo or dance any longer. I'm cooking at home more, which should be better for my figure, so why have I gained 30 pounds in the last three and a half years? It's scandalous! Why don't I have time to exercise anymore?
Well, I suppose I could explain it, but that would be a terribly long post for my journal rather than here. The fact is that I am overweight, under-appreciated, completely burned out, living a far more complicated life, and now, unmotivated. Things were much simpler when I was a single mom. Really, they were. And that is so so so so scandalous.
P. S. This is my first post for NaBloPoMo!
I just signed up for NaBloPoMo too! My birthday is Nov 30 so I'm going to try to blog 31 days for my 31st birthday - I started on Halloween:)
ReplyDeleteMy post tonight was about weight too. I understand that there is more to it than not exercising it is much more complicated.
ReplyDeleteoh comeon everyone knows marriage makes everything better! lol
ReplyDeleteI agree wholeheartedly. Single with children is complicated. Adding in a husband and step-father doesn't mean less complication. It isn't easy being married or being a single mother, together they are often impossible. BJ
ReplyDeleteWell, being a bachelor was certainly easier than being a husband and father. But after 31 years and 7 kids, I think I threw myself into it adequately :-)
ReplyDeleteI bet this was fun to exercise to! I loveee this song.
ReplyDeleteEnjoyed reading it..
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too true
ReplyDeletei have way more time when hubby is away...they are like having 5 more kids...lol
hi I chanced upon your blog and enjoy reading what u wrote here. Love the video, thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteA teacher I work with teaches jazzercise (I think she still does...). I'll ask her about the location, hours, etc. My daughter used to do jr. jazzercise and loved it.
ReplyDeleteI know that I have no time to take care of myself. And when I do have time, I have no motivation. There are times I feel like a blob bouncing through life. Lather, rinse, repeat with no energy in between.
Don't worry about it. Just turn Mis Teeq up loud!
ReplyDeleteI know that marriage is not easy, especially during the first few years, but it is definitly worth it. There are a few books that I enjoy, and that really help me; A Wife After God's Own Heart, A woman After God's Own Heart, and A mom After God's Own Heart by Elizabeth George. When I moved to Spokane, WA from Duluth, MN, I did not know anyone except my aunt, but God brought some good people in my life. It seems to me like husbands have more needs than we do. Hang in there, and things will get better.
ReplyDeletethis is too familiar of a problem Diane.
ReplyDeleteRe-read what u wrote.. HOW unfair! Not enough Diane time! We have to change this,before you really Do burn out.
I think Moms *GOOD* moms like you, are SO under appreciated and that IS totally scandalous.
great post
Sometimes I wonder why I ever got married in the first place! Life is so much easier when I'm alone! I hear ya!
ReplyDeleteI agree with Lucy...I think that's why we all gain weight...at least that's my story and I'm sticking to it!! Wonderful tell all, well put together post! Thanks for sharing. And do something nice for yourself this week!! Something scandalous!!Cackle cackle!
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Ive never heard of Jazzercise before. You need some ME time sweetie, you do deserve it so make it happen.
ReplyDeleteWell that stinks! You need to take your life back and fast. Everyone loses when mama ain't feeling it. You go girl!
ReplyDeleteI hear you! Marriage is not easy. Not that divorce is easy either... but marriage! ACK! It takes so much intestinal fortitude and some really good medications...
ReplyDeleteHUGS. I am at almost 15 years on my second marriage and I still cant say that it gets easier or that I wouldn't rather be single.
Remind me again why we marry in the first place???
I understand how hard it is for you. but I think you should try to find more positive things about your second marriage, so you can be grateful about your life..
ReplyDeleteThere gotta be some good reasons so you decided to remarry.
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I hope just writing about this has made you think more about how to fit in some "you" time. It sounds like you need a break!
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